from: How to Feel Like Shit
"Real optimism is not the pep talk you give yourself. It is earned through the labor involved in emotional housekeeping.
This means asking yourself questions like, are these negative feelings you're experiencing the result of something in your life right now? Or have they been simmering away in your cauldron of mental sickness for years and year?
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Sometimes, people avoid recognizing how they feel because they believe the feelings are a part of them, and admitting to harboring anger or jealousy feels like admitting to a physical flaw. So certain feelings are denied. Which is something like believing your house is clean as long as you don't peek under the beds.
But feelings, no matter how strong or "ugly," are not a part of who you are. They are the radio stations your mind listens to if you don't give it something better to do. Feelings are fluid and dynamic; they change frequently.
Feelings are something you have, not something you are. Like physical beauty, a cold sore, or an opinion."
from: How to Find Love
"Whether through movies or just a general, all-media fusion, many people believe in the concept of a soul mate.
This isn't necessarily a dangerous thing but it can easily veer into that direction. If you're one of those people who is single and doesn't understand why, you might want to ruminate over this for a bit.
A belief in a soul mate is often accompanied by a belief that you will meet this soul mate "when I'm supposed to."
Here now, we're kind of heading into the trouble. "When I'm supposed to," "if it's meant to happen," and similar beliefs suggest there is a paid employee overseeing these details of your life.
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Early in 2010, Science magazine published the results of study that analyzed cell phone data and declared that "it may be possible to predict human movement patterns and location up to 93 percent of the time" because most of the people studied "seemed to stick to the same small area, a radius of six miles or less."
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Maybe you aren't even aware of how small a geographic circle you live in. But until you stretch your borders just a little, you can't say you've so much as lifted a finger when it comes to finding love. What you've done is wait for love to quit its job, apply for work as a FedEx driver, and put in a request to work on your particular route.
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If you're single and you don't want to be, meet more people. It is, in fact, that easy."
more to come as I read on.
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